As another year starts to pass and this book of offerings for each day of the year draws slowly ever out on to this site, I am surrounded with reminders everywhere I look to be patient – with myself, with others, with time. I appreciate the idea and often am fairly content to be patient, as the opposite is pretty uncomfortable, in a different way than being patient is.
Mr. Tews’ sentiment came from the daily task feature in the Reframe app that I still utilize as accountability for my abstinence from alcohol, and while the first and last lines of the advice are direct, the second and third ones have spun out my thinking to places that don’t particularly correlate with patience – no matter though, the encouragement about what’s heavier become less so (in relation to what has plagued those with SUD) is clear: stay the path to rewire your brain and your natural, wonderful true self will appear more and more.
Patience in our healing journey is a form of loving ourselves, so today I will invite you to consider all the ways in which you can implement whatever patience for yourself looks like; is it saying yes to working with time in a way that feels less pressured, perhaps reviewing the different activities that fill your calendar and asking “Are these leaving me less time to slow down, tend to my heart, or relationships with others?”
Maybe, in this time of warp speed we’re living in, where patience with our selves can seem like a lofty idea more than something we can really embrace as a way of being, loving our self isn’t about how much we can cram into a day or week, rather, it’s an accepting that we only get this one precious life to live with however much time is in it (is it much, really?)and simply recognizing that the more of our time we experience at the pace that’s truly sustainable for us by inviting patience as a moderator, the more in fact, we can love our selves….and not give up.
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